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Unhealthy
Relationship
Know
When Enough is Enough
The answer to ‘What is an
unhealthy relationship?’ is not as obvious as one might think.
Some typical relationship
issues come to mind:
- Lack of support and communication
- A
divergence of interests
- Lack of
time spent together sharing
But a relationship is
unhealthy not necessarily because of issues like lack of communication,
physical
abuse, etc., but because one or both partners allow the relationship to
continue without addressing the problematic issues.
Unfortunately, most people cannot
recognize this unless they’re a ‘victim’, and sometimes even then, it
is difficult. As the saying goes: “There
are none so blind as those that cannot see.”
Some common
signs
you might be in an unhealthy relationship:
- You are withdrawing from one another
- You no longer have fun together
- You have nothing nice to say to one another
- You don't talk with one another about your
problems
- You don't respect one another
- You can't agree on goals and values
- You don't trust one another and feel suspicious
- The level of sexual intimacy is low
- One of you, or both, has been unfaithful
- Teasing has become hurtful
- Your partner tries to isolate you from your
family and friends
- You are happier when your partner is away from
home for an afternoon, a meeting, or for a business trip
- You realize that there is emotional and/or
physical abuse in your marriage.
We’ve looked at what
is an unhealthy relationship. It’s only left to talk about what to do
about it.
First of all, you need to dig deep into
your heart and soul and then, using your head, decide what kind of
unhealthy we’re talking about. Is this the kind of unhealthy that can
be sorted out by seeking therapy?
Or is it the kind of unhealthy that
you need to leave the house immediately and seek outside assistance?
The bottom line is that if we don’t act, our problems and issues in our
dealings with our partners will cause the relationship to turn ugly.
Don’t sit on your relationship
issues and wait for
time, or someone else, to solve them.
For additional relationship
management
advice, such as the unhealthy relationship section here, please check out the
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