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Relationship
Building
Key
Aspects to Consider
Relationship
building is not a one time deal.
As I'm sure you figured that
out
when you decided to get married or move in with your
partner...
relationships require work.
I’m not sure ‘work’ is
the correct word. Perhaps ‘input’ would be better.
Or ‘effort’.
Whichever word you prefer, it should be preceded by the words
‘proactive’ and ‘positive’.
Relationship building
has involves many key aspects,
to include:
- Healthy relationships need to grow and
develop. Individuals grow in healthy
relationships and consequently the
relationship grows.
- It is like building a house, a relationship
needs a solid
foundation before the house can go up.
- As time goes by, you’ll find
you’re always adding, renovating and improving your house, but the
foundation remains the same.
- A troubled
relationships may need to address any number of relationship issues.
- When you find a solution to an issue or
dispute, you change the
structure of your previous thought patterns and behavior.
- In other
words, you renovate and then rebuild parts of your
relationship.
- When you’re in a
relationship, you’ll find you need to be constantly relationship
building. What worked when you first met, may not work as the
relationship develops.
- Where once you were amused when he cut work
to
go fishing, now you are irritated that the household budget is being
affected.
- The household budget wasn’t an issue when you
first met. But
as time goes by, new issues arise that need to be dealt with.
Building a solid relationship involves dealing
with issues. As cracks appear in the wall,
or leaks spring out of nowhere, you fix them and thereby strengthen and
solidify the structure of your relationship.
Some
of the processes and factors in building a strong relationship include:
- Taking
time out to communicate
- Every partnership needs to take time to
discuss problems and ‘touch base’ on whether there are any cracks in
the relationship.
- Maybe
you have an agreed on time to discuss issues. You could set
aside
a certain time every week to sit down and go over any unresolved issues.
- Learning
how to communicate
- This involves understanding your partner
and how best to initiate communication about relationship issues.
- It
also involves understanding when best to have relationship talks.
- Confronting relationship issues when you’re
in
emotional state doesn’t lend itself to relationship building.
- Adopting
a positive attitude
- A positive attitude to your relationship
will give both parties the enthusiasm to get out the relationship spade
and shovel and build.
- Having
relationship goals
- Partners that have the same goal may have
different
ideas about the best way to get there, but it is far easier to
compromise on the means that it is to compromise on the end result.
- Recognizing
the needs of both partners as individuals
- Relationship
building is about two people who have committed to being together.
- Relationship needs
should not overshadow individual needs to the extent the original two
individuals become different.
- Ultimately, this leads to individuals
losing those aspects to their personality that attracted their partner
when they first met.
In the end, a good
relationship is founded on love.
We like to think love can conquer all.
For additional relationship
management
advice, such as the relationship building section here, please check out the
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