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Introduce
Yourself
So You Don't Miss Your Big Chance
It
may be nerve-wracking to introduce yourself to someone you never met.
But the alternative might be just as painful.
You
might
miss out on a special relationship.
If you are a shy person, or uncomfortable making introductions, dating
can be very stressful.
But in order to get to know someone and start a relationship, you will
need to make contact.
Building up enough courage to make the first step and then trying to
keep the conversation going can make some people sick.
We have some dating advice that just might help ease the situation and
send you off in the right direction.
 You
might think this next statement is contradictory, but...the best way to get over the fear
of introducing yourself is actually doing it.
If
you cannot seem to jump in with both feet, try easing into
it. Introduce yourself to someone you have seen before.
Maybe at the office or the grocery store, working out at a gym, book
clubs...or wherever you reel more relaxed.
Then as you feel more comfortable, move up into the big leagues and
introduce yourself to that person you've been dying to meet.
Finding a person attractive and wanting to introduce yourself can leave
your knees shaking and your lips stumbling over words.
The
fear of rejection is what usually causes us to avoid approaching
someone. Rejection can be emotionally damaging, but the key
to
overcoming rejection is self-confidence.
Self-confidence is
very important during first impressions. The confidence you have in
yourself will be visible to others and can add to your overall
attractiveness.
Here are some
tips for when you introduce yourself.
- Always make eye contact. Avoiding eye contact
can make you appear to be hiding something.
- Keep a smile. Smiling is always welcomed. And
smiling shows interest.
- Stand up straight. Don't slouch; it can make
you appear to have low self-esteem.
- If
you're struggling for words, go for the standard, "hello, my name
is...". Then follow up.
- Don't expect the
other person
to just start blabbing...you need to follow up the initial hello with
something.
- Make a comment on something! Comment on the
weather, the price of tomatoes, a book they may have been reading or
whatever piqued your interest. Anything.
- It has
been our experience that if the person is truly interested the initial
awkward opening comments will expand into "real" conversation.
- Try
looking at it from the other side. If you noticed someone you
wanted to approach and say hi to...but that person introduced
themselves to you first. Would you just stand there like a
lump
on a log...or would you yourself start the conversation flowing.
- If
the standard, "Hi! What's your name" is a little...blah, try showing
some interest in them. "I noticed that you...". It
is a
simple rule to follow that can make the conversation flow more smoothly.
- Ask
questions about what they do for a living and what they like to do for
fun. Don't overdo it though. Asking questions are good for starting
conversations but don't hound the person with question after question.
- Most
people aren't going to go into the their life story right off the bat,
so don't get too personal.
- If you are still not sure on a way to introduce
yourself effectively, you might want to try a double date...or maybe
even a blind date.
- And where would we be without online dating match,
chat rooms and phone chatting. At least you can practice
introducing yourself.
- Slow Down. When we are nervous, we tend to rush
or speech, which comes across as not very confident.
If
you really want to know someone and possibly start a great
relationship, it is important to put your fears aside and take the
first step and introduce yourself.
In addition to the introduce
yourself discussion here, don't forget our other topics in
the flirting section
such as: sexual
compatibility, flirting
advice, pickup lines,
body language,
social network
and love names.
In the mood for something romantic?
Don' forget to check out our best
love, first time
and romantic ideas
sections
for more inspiration.
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