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Indian Dating
Match
and Relationship Advice
Indian dating can be quite different from the usual "Boy meets Girl"
story. In a culture where arranged marriages are the norm, rather than
the exception, true love has been harder to come by.
India's
history dates back over 5000 years, and is rich in culture and
tradition. And one of the strongest traditions relates to marriage and
how couples are brought together.
 Though
some dating matches are made based on mutual attraction, far more
couples are the product of arranged marriages, and casual dating
without the firm goal of marriage in mind is simply unheard of.
Traditionally,
Indian singles and singles dating is almost non-existent compared to
the way dating is handled in Western cultures.
In India, it is a generally accepted fact that your family will choose
your future mate for you.
Sometimes
these matches are made from childhood, sometimes the match is made once
both partners reach adulthood and have completed their education.
While
the idea of letting your parents choose your husband or wife for you
may seem quite controlling to Westerners, this is not the way it's
viewed in India.
Today, many young Indian singles are actively involved in the dating
choice along with their parents.
Divorce is highly frowned upon in the Indian culture, so the choice of
the right partner is crucial.
How Indian
Dating and partners are chosen.
It is ultimately the decision and advice of the parent to assess the
following traits.
Common Religion
- This is crucial for an Indian marriage bargain
to be struck.
Similar
Levels of Education
- The
Indian people highly prize education, and to make a match that includes
a disparity in education is seemed as inefficient...and doesn't work
well in the long run.
Matching
Caste or Cultures
- India's social structure is very rigid, and it
is largely unheard of to marry outside of your class.
Known
Family
- Parents
typically look to their married friends' children for potential
spouses, since they usually already know something about them.
Sometimes, an Indian matchmaker may also be consulted if a suitable
marriage partner cannot readily be found.
The search is a bit like a job interview, and the candidate with the
best qualifications gets "hired for the position".
However,
it should be noted that if one of the potential spouses has a true
objection to the match, it is seldom forced on them. This would defeat
the purpose of the entire search, to make a marriage that will prosper
and not end in divorce.
Not all couples have the opportunity
to meet before their wedding day, trusting in their parents' ability to
make the best choice for them.
This is something that would be
considered unthinkable in modern Western culture. Yet, the tradition of
arranged marriages still thrives after some 5000 years in India, so
there must be a great deal of success involved.
Other couples
get to know one another prior to marriage, but they meet in
well-orchestrated situations with few of the casual dating scenarios
many Western young people face.
East
Meets West
- While
many Indian families living in the West still carry on with the
tradition of arranged marriages, others find themselves adopting a page
from western culture, and young adults may be allowed to do some actual
dating based on their own preferences.
Interestingly, the
Internet is filled with Indian dating websites designed to specifically
help Indian singles meet other like minded Indians with companionship
in mind.
When
you think about it, this practice is not so different from meeting with
a traditional Indian match maker to search for potential life partners.
Both partners go through a screening process, not unlike that used for
arranged marriages.
However,
online Indian dating sites yield a wider array of potential companions,
and whether or not marriage is a goal is completely up to the
participants.
In addition to the Indian
dating section here, you will find similar spiritual
relationship ideas in the religious
dating section; such as: Catholic matchmaker,
Christian
matchmaking, Jewish
matchmaker and Muslim
dating.
In the mood for something romantic?
Don' forget to check out our love
ideas, best
love, flirting, romantic ideas and first time sections
for more inspiration.
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