Asian Matchmaker and
Asian Dating Advice

• You must realize the difference between how men and women are raised in traditional Asian society, because it can affect your dating experience.

• Traditionally...women are raised to be respectful of men and to defer to them in most matters. The woman's job in the relationship is to take care of the family and the man's needs.

• Men are traditionally raised to be providers and to protect the women in their family. They will naturally take the lead in a relationship.

• Family bonds run deep within Asian families, and even Americanized single Asians still get a lot of input on their dating partners from well-meaning parents.

• This means that when you date an Asian, you will likely be dating his or her entire family to a certain extent. Expect to be thoroughly scrutinized, although it will be done respectfully.

• Parents want to be sure the person their child is dating is safe and suitable.

• To make sure you are thought of in high regards, be sure to show respect for the feelings of your partners' parents.  In essence, they are the most significant Asian matchmaker.

• This will assure them of your honorable intentions toward their child and will help smooth the path for further relationship development in case the two of you hit it off.

• Honor is extremely important in Asian society, so it's crucial to conduct yourself respectfully.

• Be on your best behavior: This means use your manners at all times and be thoughtful of your date's needs and concerns.

• Listen attentively when your date speaks to you. Be willing to do some of the things he/she likes instead of just things that interest you.

• Don't exaggerate about your education, financial situation or your employment prospects.

• If you've been married before, be up front about it and let your partner decide if continuing the acquaintance is in everyone's best interest.

• Never push the relationship too quickly.  The quickest way to scare off a new partner is to try and maneuver him/her into the bedroom. It shows disrespect for the person and is often a real deal breaker.

• Many traditional Asians will choose to save the sexual relationship until after marriage, so know what you are looking for in the relationship before you begin.

• Asian families put a lot of emphasis into their cultural traditions, so expect to be included at celebrations and ceremonies.

• It doesn't hurt you to attend, even if you don't hold the same beliefs, and you may find the experience enlightening as well as entertaining. 

• Many families of Asian decent have lived in the West for generations and no longer follow many of the traditional Asian dating traditions.

• People can often meet and date whoever interests them, and families may not be as involved with who their children choose to date.

• But, you can still expect Asian families to show ordinary parental interest and concern.

• Many online dating sites cater to a targeted Asian matchmaker audience, so people wanting to date within their culture have the opportunity to connect with a wide variety of people who not only share their heritage but also share some of the same hobbies, values and interests.