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Advice needed badly. My girlfriend has gone back to her emotionally abusive ex why?

My girlfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago out of the blue and it turns out she has gone back to her previous boyfriend who is the total opposite of me in every aspect

We started dating when she left him because he was emotionally abusive and preferred to spend all his time with his mates. He was very selfish and strung her along for about 4 years To him she was just a trophy. and if you knew her you would have married her asap.THESE ARE HER WORDS, NOT MINE. When she met me we clicked straight away and after about 6 months she confided in me she had strong feelings for me which had developed through friendship. Eventually she saw the light and left him behind to start up with me. I was affectionate, caring, passionate etc (not sooky or demanding or over the top though) and she absolutely couldnt believe how well i treated her & how strong we felt about eachother.

We did everything together and she would always tell me how much she loved me, write poems to eachother etc, it was fantastic. She even talked about marriage, a house etc and how she was so positive we would have it, I was in love and had no resson to doubt any of it. I truly thought she was the one and i am not a lovesick fool in these matters. As i said i was the total opposite of her ex, maybe not having someone for her to mother or rescue got to her as eventually it unravelled. her ex wouldntg leave her be and kept contacting her and played the poor me act and put her on a massive guilt trip which got to her. He also would tell her about girls he would pick up to get her jealous. She knew i didnt like him but i tolerated some contact as she is a free person, (apparently she wasnt allowed to much freedom in their partnership, her words again not mine). She ended up worrying about him when he was doing just fine, he only was playing mind games what really hurts is that we even went overseas together and 5 days later she left me, my world collapsed.

overseas she showed no signs of being unhappy, she even talked of baby names, honeymoons, etc how lucky she was etc. I had no reason not to believe her but in the back of her mind the ex was sitting there. When we got home he got in contact again and put on the i have changed act and i want you back etc etc. Sadly she believed it, he is very manipulative over her. She quite literally broke my heart even though all these people were telling her wtf?. I was nothing hut the perfect boyfriend apparently but i couldnt compete with mind games and guilt trips. I was just honest.

Anyway everyone cant believe it, they saw that relationship first time round and knew it was doomed and no good for her. They saw the change in both of us when we were together. So why has she gone. I find it hard to believe she fell for his crap. Since the split she has totally ignored me and refuses to speak, is it out of guilt?. I have not been given a chance to fight back and that kills me. She is very aggressive to me and i think she is trying to goad me so as to give her a reason to hate me when i never did anything to hurt her ever. this is totaly out of character for her, normally she is very sweet and gentle but with him she changes into a very bitter woman.

I love this girl and want to marry her even still now. I just cant understand why she would go back to someone who strung her along, treated her poorly and has put on the change act when he hasnt at all.Deep down she knows she will not be happy with him, she wasnt before. I am ready for the marriage and kids thing and it was her who always brought that up so i didnt push that on her.

So peoples, what on earth is with this girl? Please help me as I am starting to lose it big time.

Advice needed. My girlfriend left me to go back to her manipulative emotionally abusive ex.?

My girlfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago out of the blue and it turns out she has gone back to her previous boyfriend who is the total opposite of me in every aspect

We started dating when she left him because he was emotionally abusive and preferred to spend all his time with his mates. He was very selfish and strung her along for about 4 years To him she was just a trophy. and if you knew her you would have married her asap.THESE ARE HER WORDS, NOT MINE. When she met me we clicked straight away and after about 6 months she confided in me she had strong feelings for me which had developed through friendship. Eventually she saw the light and left him behind to start up with me. I was affectionate, caring, passionate etc (not sooky or demanding or over the top though) and she absolutely couldnt believe how well i treated her & how strong we felt about eachother.

We did everything together and she would always tell me how much she loved me, write poems to eachother etc, it was fantastic. She even talked about marriage, a house etc and how she was so positive we would have it, I was in love and had no resson to doubt any of it. I truly thought she was the one and i am not a lovesick fool in these matters. As i said i was the total opposite of her ex, maybe not having someone for her to mother or rescue got to her as eventually it unravelled. her ex wouldntg leave her be and kept contacting her and played the poor me act and put her on a massive guilt trip which got to her. He also would tell her about girls he would pick up to get her jealous. She knew i didnt like him but i tolerated some contact as she is a free person, (apparently she wasnt allowed to much freedom in their partnership, her words again not mine). She ended up worrying about him when he was doing just fine, he only was playing mind games what really hurts is that we even went overseas together and 5 days later she left me, my world collapsed.

overseas she showed no signs of being unhappy, she even talked of baby names, honeymoons, etc how lucky she was etc. I had no reason not to believe her but in the back of her mind the ex was sitting there. When we got home he got in contact again and put on the i have changed act and i want you back etc etc. Sadly she believed it, he is very manipulative over her. She quite literally broke my heart even though all these people were telling her wtf?. I was nothing hut the perfect boyfriend apparently but i couldnt compete with mind games and guilt trips. I was just honest.

Anyway everyone cant believe it, they saw that relationship first time round and knew it was doomed and no good for her. They saw the change in both of us when we were together. So why has she gone. I find it hard to believe she fell for his crap. Since the split she has totally ignored me and refuses to speak, is it out of guilt?. I have not been given a chance to fight back and that kills me. She is very aggressive to me and i think she is trying to goad me so as to give her a reason to hate me when i never did anything to hurt her ever. this is totaly out of character for her, normally she is very sweet and gentle but with him she changes into a very bitter woman.

I love this girl and want to marry her even still now. I just cant understand why she would go back to someone who strung her along, treated her poorly and has put on the change act when he hasnt at all.Deep down she knows she will not be happy with him, she wasnt before. I am ready for the marriage and kids thing and it was her who always brought that up so i didnt push that on her.

So peoples, what on earth is with this girl? Please help me as I am starting to lose it big time.
I really want to fight for this girl but am afraid that i will push her away even further. She has already returned to him and it is literally killing me inside to think that she would do this to me. I genuinely think i am the better option for her and still believe we are meant to be. I am just so lost without her and i didnt think it would be this difficult but when you love someone as much as i love her it seems cruel.

what do i do? i want my ex back! guys/girls what should i do?

ok, so im a junior in high school and have never really had any luck when it came to guys..
but this year i met a freshman that at lunch through some mutual friends. i gave him my number one day and we immediately hit it off, just on the first phone call alone we talked for an hour and a half. and every day for a week he came over/called. then he asked me out and i said yes. sure there was the comments as to why i was dating a freshman but i didnt care. he was everything i wanted.
we were going out for about three weeks when things started to get screwed up. one of my guy friends professed his love for me and was trying to move in, but i still liked my boyfriend and was confused cuz i sorta liked my friend too. Then there was a rumor going around that my boyfriend kissed another girl. a friend of ours that was dating someone else who shes in love with and wont leave.
idk what the real story was whether it was an accident, she kissed him he kissed her i dont care.
i found out and was devastated. so two days later my friend came over and he kissed me.
but even though everyone was convinced i was better off i still knew i had feelings for chris(my boyfriend) so i really didnt know what to do. but apparently we werent officially broken up. so when i told him that i wanted to be with nobody but him and that i didnt care who kissed who. and i also told him that my friend had kissed me no lies there, i thought we were going to be fine. so the next day when he came over and broke up with me i literally felt my heart shatter on the spot.
his reason? he didnt want to hurt me, and wanted to be stupid reckless and get into fights without worrying about me worrying about him…. where the hell did all this come from?!
k maybe he’s just a 15 yr old that wants to be free, but in all honesty i knew he cared about me, he told me he wanted to be mine forever and didnt want us to break up.
so when this came at me i was naturally confused, and tried to tell him this. but he insists that i dont know what i want and that thinking about it will help me out.
i did that, so much it hurt actually.
idk what to do, hell i even looked up a “get your ex back” website, but it said not to make him feel guilty, and not contact him for awhile…. so im worried i already screwed it up because ive talked to him a lot and we still are friends. he told me right after dumping me that we are still friends and that i can call him if needed.
he hasnt actually seen me cry, well maybe once, but i do put my thoughts towards him as to questioning why we broke up. ive told him i care more about him than anyone in my life.
and i know that im in love with him completely.
i want to know what i can do to get him back, and to realize i wouldnt care if he was frankenstein, i love everything about him and how he makes me able to have fun and not be the excessive over responsible worry-er that i am. when im around him im happy and fun.
i want that back, i want to be able to sleep at night without having to dry my pillow of tears first.
any advice on what to do would help me beyond belief plz?
oh and i also wrote him a note telling my exact feelings and a pros and cons list because he wanted me to really compare both sides of why i want him back. should i give it to him?

How do i get back together with my ex?

Yesterday, I started thinkin when was the last time, I was happy in my life.
Its my ex, James, we broke up about 3 months ago.
I really really like him still.
I broke with him.
Yesterday he said “I know how lucky I would be to have YOU”
Any advice.
We broke up because he moved!
Thank you!
Any advice would work, feel free to write a paragraph or more!
RIGHT NOW! I NEED ALL THE HELP I CAN GET WITH THIS ISSUSE!
pLEASE HELP, THANK YOU!

Is there any chance of me getting back with my ex ?

I need the courage to physce my self up and call my ex girlfriend I really miss her and want her bk what should I say Me and my ex girlfriend we’re together for a year and a half and we weren’t just boyfriend girlfriend we were also best friends and I miss her everyday. Whilst we were broken up she saw a pic of me on facebook talking to another girl and she got really angry and said we’d never get back together now and then she said she likes somebody else. And she had a go at me for going out loads but we’re not together soo why is she bothered and she goes out patrying more than me anyway. I want her back badly what do I do to get her back.

We broke up about 6 weeks ago because I got drunk at her prom and embrassed her in front of her family and friends. We’ve broken up before and she said if we ever broke up again we would never get back together. But when I tried to get her back via calling her, txting her and emailing her she said no but she also said if you stop beig stupid we could get back together and if we stay friends maybe we’ll get back together. And we went shopping the other week and it was fun talkng about the old days and we arranged to go out more often to the cinema but ever since then she has said she’s too busy and we’re not meant to be. What should I do to get her back please any advice I’m trying to get the courage to ring her and talk to her thanks. And is 6 weeks too late (but I’ve seen her 3 times during those three weeks, she saw me at a party and got reaaly angry with me and I went round to her house to plead with her to get back with me lol and she asked me to go shopping with her). We were together for ages is she really over me or just saying it because I ruined her prom. Because we were going out for a year and a half I spent alot of my free time with her and we were really close. But she I sent her a txt yday and she hasn’t replied is that because she’s thinknig about it I mean if she dosen’t like me wouldn’t she reply telling me to go away. Is there still any chance she will get bk together with me Iove her soo much